As children grow older and begin to become more aware of their environment and their senses, the well-known fears also begin to appear.
Is it normal for children to feel fear?
Of course, is totally normal, for them all things are new, big, loud and the first impression on them could generate fear.
We have to understand that not all fears are created in the same way. Our kids listen and imitate everything that we do, we are their role models. So, if my reaction to every time I see a spider is scream! and say loudly I am afraid of them. It is very probable thar my kids will react in the same way to spiders.
In that way we could say that some fears are learned from our parents and environment.
Not all fears are created or appear for the same reasons.
Ask yourself, is your kid constantly talking about what scares him or does he only name it when a certain situation occurs or an object is present? It is a fear that occurs from time to time or limits your kid to do some activity. Example he does not want to go to the park for fear of seeing a spider. Try to identify when it started. Some may even arise as a result of a one-off experience. The more details you have, the easier it will be to solve and overcome it.
Which are the most common fears in children?
When they are babies, at around 8 months, children may feel anxious about being with someone they do not recognize. That is why they can often cry when a unknown person carries them. At older ages, separation anxiety begins to emerge. Children have a strong bond with their parents and do not want to be separated from. Parents are the ones who provides them - security-. From the age of 4, or even earlier, the games begin with the imagination. Where they claim to be, and see things, and may even times they confuse what is real and what is not. That is why at this age they begin to fear the dark, thunder and others.
How can we support and provide security to them?
The main thing is to understand that they can feel fear, in the same way that we do. So giving value to that feeling and providing security is the most important thing. Identify what is really generating anxiety, allow your child to explain what he feels. Children often react to images or movies they see, which are normal for us but give anxiety in them. Talk to your child, calm him down and explain. If you think it is too small to understand your answer, your voice and company will give him peace of mind. Fears are overcome by facing little by little, be patient. That is, if he is afraid of the dark, stay with him at night and show him that there is nothing to fear.
Are you still in doubt?
There are many children who find it difficult and are more affected by certain fears. If so, take the time to consult a specialist. It is important to differentiate between a fear and a phobia. Remember that not all fears are bad. Fears are part of our survival instinct, protecting us on many occasions. Many are passing fears through stages of development that are then overcome and left behind. As always, routines, good relationship and connection with your children will facilitate this and all the processes of development of your children and parenting, since they foster a relationship of trust, security and good self-esteem.